Lies people tell
I've heard it said that time heals all wounds. I'm not sure who said it but I'd like to challenge it. I don't think it does. I think time just passes and perhaps some of the rawness lessens. That's it.
Because all it takes is seeing a farmer with an old tractor baling hay in a ditch or a man of slight build in a light grey and blue jacket crossing the street or my daughter doing something with spunk that would make my father smirk or hearing Low German being spoken by a group of men his age or an old hymn.
That's it. Tiny moments that bring it all back with force.
And it's been 4 years. Shouldn't that be enough dose of time if the adage is true?
Because all it takes is seeing a farmer with an old tractor baling hay in a ditch or a man of slight build in a light grey and blue jacket crossing the street or my daughter doing something with spunk that would make my father smirk or hearing Low German being spoken by a group of men his age or an old hymn.
That's it. Tiny moments that bring it all back with force.
And it's been 4 years. Shouldn't that be enough dose of time if the adage is true?
posted by ccap at 5:21 PM
5 Comments:
Right there with you.
I wish it didn't have to be that way.
Is a wee bit of it almost a relief that the pain doesn't go away? I mean because then your system is telling you how much you miss him and that feels right? I mean rather than feeling guilty for not missing him?
I'm so sorry. You're right...time doesn't heal all wounds because some wounds just become a part of us and can't be undone.
Time is a finicky friend and wounds that deep always leave scars, which, even when healed, still don't feel the same as your regular skin.
Yes Wendy, that's exactly how I feel, 8 years past it - the hurt says "yes, I loved him."
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